How Do You Answer Uncomfortable Questions?

It’s a matter of time for a child to walk-up to their parents and ask them something unexpected. So, when they ask uncomfortable questions, how do you react?


My 10 and 11-year-old daughters decided to get a side shave a few months ago. They had no idea what a big deal it would be for some kids at school.

They came home amazed about the comments they received from their peers. Most were very positive, but still shocking to them because it was until then, that they realized how much importance was put on hair.

They were called cool, brave, and courageous. Others told them that they would be scared to cut or shave part of their hair off and that their parents would NEVER allow it.

Their schools have a pretty large Latinx population, so when some of the kids told them that their parents, mainly their dads wouldn’t have allowed it, they thought it was weird.


See, my kids are growing up different than the traditional Latinx families. I must note that Latinx people are not a homogenous (all the same) group of people although there are commonalities. Continue reading “How Do You Answer Uncomfortable Questions?”

What’s Your Relationship With Food Look Like?

Year after year, I hear people set a goal to lose weight, but I rarely hear people set their goal to change their mindset about eating. Myself included.  

What?! YES. That’s right. We don’t usually think of weight loss this way, but we do think about changing our mindset when it comes to working out – and that’s great!

But we’re not giving food and the relationship we have with food much thought at all. And we really should be especially nowadays when the number two reason people bully others is their weight.

Years ago, my sisters had a roommate who viewed food as a necessary fuel. He didn’t care much about the aesthetic or taste (well, to a certain degree).

But, what fascinated me about his relationship with food was that it was a tool rather than an enjoyment or something to look forward to celebrating with holidays, parties or celebrations. Continue reading “What’s Your Relationship With Food Look Like?”

No Secret To Success

You know when you see articles online stating topics like, “10 Things That Billionaires Do Each Day” or “Highly Effective Habits Successful People Practice”?

Well, those titles grasp people’s interest because they infer that if people adopt some of those habits, they too might become very successful.

Before I went into entrepreneurship, I’d click on those type of articles out of curiosity and to be honest, I was looking for an answer about how I could become successful.

I wondered if I was doing something wrong or if I needed to adopt a new habit to get to my goal. I also compared myself a lot – which is very damaging to anyone who does it (another topic for later).

While a lot of those articles are interesting and they can help you learn new ways to do things, they don’t guarantee success or wealth. Continue reading “No Secret To Success”

Free Resources For Start-Up Entrepreneurs

“When did you realize you wanted to be your own boss?” someone recently asked me. It stunned me because I hadn’t even thought of it. It’s always felt as if I’ve had crazy ideas that no one really understood.

But as I thought of this, I started remembering my entrepreneurial attempts.

My first job was when I was 10 years old. I worked for an entrepreneur who would provide his kid employees a box of candy. He’d drive us kids around “rich neighborhoods” to sell the candy bars.

It was hard work for a 10 year old because we had to walk house-to-house and get a lot more NOs than Yeses. We’d make a profit from the sales and the kid who’d sell the most would get a bonus at the end of the day.

Then, I started working for a lady who would give my Mom patterns to sew from home. By the time I was 14 years old, my mother had become a single mom of six.

She’d try to find any way to earn money and take care of us and in a way, I think she’s who taught me to be resourceful and to use what I knew to earn a living. She’s been the best role model of survival in my life.

My younger siblings would help my Mom with minor tasks while the my two middle kids and I helped sew some of the clothes. Later, I asked my Mom’s employer for a job. So, I became her helper at her clothing boutique during the week and I’d go sell the clothes at a high-end flea market with her on the weekends.

While working for someone was not exactly me owning my own business, it felt good to work on my own terms and to chose what I wanted to do. I loved being able to go to school and being able to earn money.

Years later, when I was in the military, I became a Mary Kay consultant. I did pretty well despite the fact that I was not a good seller and I wasn’t into make-up or skin care products.

Later, as I was getting ready to leave the military, I became a Realtor & Real Estate Consultant. While I did great, my career was short lived due to the market crash in 2007.

While in college, I learned about a program called the Entrepreneur Bootcamp for Veterans (EBV) with Disabilities. I applied and was accepted.  Continue reading “Free Resources For Start-Up Entrepreneurs”

Beating The Odds When Everything Is Against You

I’m baaaack!!! And it feels so great! I appreciate your patience and still hanging in there for me. I’ve learned so much the past month with my business challenges, which were nothing compared to other people’s more serious situations. But, if you’ve just recently subscribed I’ll catch you up.

I had serious tech issues that pretty much stopped everything I was doing in the online part of my business. I couldn’t deliver my blogs, I lost tons of material I had already prepared for upcoming social media distribution and I couldn’t even log into the back end of my website.

These issues got me thinking because I felt horrible about myself. I started to beat myself up for not being able to foresee this problem. I started to doubt that I should continue my entrepreneur path and wonder if my blogs or program were good enough.

Then I realized I was being hard on myself because I push myself to do my best. I care about the quality of my work and I always feel like I let people down (in this case, you) when I don’t do what I set out to do on time.

As I was venting to a friend about my challenges, he (thank you Gerardo) told me to create a list of successes where I’d look at my past experiences and write down every negative challenge – personal or professional – that I’ve overcome.

So, I did. And after I finished my list I realized how insignificant my current tech problem was. Accepting this, I allowed myself to relax a little and I became confident that it would all work out. As soon as I did that, things started moving a little faster and I started working more efficiently.

From that moment of self-reflection, I was inspired to write this blog about overcoming challenges. So, I began to think about people who have amazing stories of trials and tribulations that have helped me get over my pity-parties. And I remembered something that I realized I’ve always purposely kept in mind that has helped me make impactful decisions. Continue reading “Beating The Odds When Everything Is Against You”

10 Ways To Help A Bully

If you could your child in a bubble, would you? It’s something all parents have thought of at one point or another. I think a lot about sitcoms I used to watch as a kid like, The Wonder Years and Family Matters when I think about the obstacles that kids faced and how well the parents always handled the situations.

But in reality, we know that parenting is not as smooth as it’s depicted to be. Honestly, I’m not one of those parents who would put their kids in a bubble. I understand the need for them to go through some hardships.

However, I don’t want them to go through so much that they’ll end up screwed up for the rest of their lives. But there’s something most of us parents don’t think of.

What if the kids who were tormenting others at schools, playgrounds or recreation centers are MY kids? No parent want to find out that their kid is the one one causing others so much pain.

Especially when you were the one being bullied as a child or if it’s happening to your now in adulthood (oh yes, work bullies are out there…different topic for a later blog).

If you google the word “bully”, you’re going to find tons of results about how to help the victim, but not an equal amount of information about the bully. Continue reading “10 Ways To Help A Bully”

A Bracero’s Grandson You Should Know

Alan Malagon was 13 years old when he first visited family members in the US. His visit lasted three weeks with his uncles in Yucaipa, California, where they lived and worked.

His mother, a U.S. citizen who has lived most of her life between Mexico and the U.S already had her eldest child, Wendy living in the U.S. as well as other family members. However, the first of Alan’s family members to have lived and worked in the U.S. was his grandfather, Antonio Malagon.

His grandfather who was born in 1939, came to the U.S. at the age of 20 as a Bracero. The Bracero program allowed for thousands of immigrants to enter the country for field work due to the shortage of labor caused by the U.S.’s participation in World War II.

He worked in various states such as Texas, Washington state, California and just about anywhere from the West Coast to Texas that would offer him a job.

Eventually, Antonio was able to apply for permanent residency and later became a citizen with the help of his employer. During one of his many trips back and forth from the U.S. to Mexico, Antonio met a girl named Maria.

He courted her for a while and eventually they married. They started a family and as the family grew, he continued to travel back and forth to the U.S. for work. Continue reading “A Bracero’s Grandson You Should Know”