We’re living in a time when bullying, discrimination, and dehumanization are on full display—in schools, online, and even in positions of power. But what scares me more than the actions of bullies... is the silence of bystanders.
Recently, I heard a story that stopped me in my tracks. It’s a powerful example of how the bystander effect can condition us to prioritize self-preservation over doing the right thing.
A woman shared her experience from when she was sixteen years old. She walked into her classroom to find the desks arranged in a circle, and in the center sat a fishbowl on a desk. Her teacher gave strict instructions:
“Sit down. Shut up. You are not allowed to move or speak. Anyone who does will immediately fail this class.”
Then, he pulled the fish out of the bowl and placed it on the desk.
And walked out.
All the students were frozen in fear—paralyzed by the threat of failure. They watched as the fish gasped for air. No one wanted to fail. But no one wanted to let the fi...
Have you seen Disney’s Encanto? I’ve watched it at least five times. It’s more than just catchy songs and colorful visuals—it’s a powerful commentary on family dynamics, especially toxic loyalty, and the person every family tries to silence: the “Bruno.”
Let’s be honest—we all have a Bruno.
Bruno represents the family member who dares to tell the truth. The one who sees dysfunction and speaks up, even when it’s uncomfortable. Bruno is the sibling who calls out generational trauma. The coworker who warns leadership about a toxic work culture. The cousin who begs the family to stop ignoring abuse, addiction, or dangerous patterns.
And what happens when Bruno speaks up?
He’s called dramatic. Disloyal. Bitter. “Too much.”
Instead of being supported, he’s blamed—not because he’s wrong, but because he broke the silence.
According to Psychology Today, denial is a defense mech...
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 School is a whirlwind of styles, brands, and ever-changing trends—today it’s all about those chunky sneakers, and tomorrow it’ll be something else! But as parents, we know that the “right” friends don’t come with a price tag or a label. The friendships that truly enrich our kids’ lives are based on character, kindness, and fun—not on what’s in their closet. Let’s help our kids spot the difference between true friends and “trend friends”!
In a world full of marketing and “must-haves,” it’s easy for kids to feel like they need to dress or accessorize a certain way to fit in. But focusing on material things can lead them down a shallow path. Instead, let's guide them to look for friends who value their quirks, cheer for their wins, and support them in times that even the coolest sneakers won’t fix.
Here are some traits that matter way more than what someone’s wearing
Kindness Over Coolness. Friends who are kind and respectful will stand by ...
In today’s world, kids have more information at their fingertips than we ever did. A quick search can answer nearly any question (well, except “why do you still have to make your bed if you’re just going to mess it up again?”). But with endless information comes an endless need for critical thinking—and not just the kind that gets them out of a chore! We’re talking about spotting facts, asking the right questions, and avoiding the “sharing-is-caring” approach regarding misinformation.
With social media, endless streaming, and chat groups, kids are bombarded with messages from every direction—messages that sometimes claim to be facts but have the credibility of, well, that kid who said he could actually fly off the swing set. Critical thinking is the ultimate superpower, one that’ll help our kids grow into adults who think things through instead of just going with the flow.
Teaching kids to evaluate information helps them in so many ways...
As summer fades and the back-to-school season approaches, both parents and kids often face a mix of excitement and anxiety. The start of a new school year brings the promise of fresh beginnings, but it can also present challenges that can feel overwhelming for both children and their families. From adjusting to new routines to managing social dynamics and academic pressures, the transition back to school is a significant period that requires careful navigation.
Here’s how you can help your child overcome these hurdles and ensure a successful start to the school year.
One of the biggest challenges kids face when returning to school is adjusting to a new schedule. Over the summer, bedtimes often get later, and mornings become more relaxed. However, as the school year begins, it’s important to reestablish a routine.
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According to the official International Women’s Day website, March 8 is “a global day celebrating the social, economic, cultural, and political achievements of women. The day also marks a call to action for accelerating women's equality.”
Let’s talk about what that looks like—not just on social media or in speeches—but in everyday choices, especially at home.
Equality doesn’t just come from new laws—it comes from changing the stories we live and pass down.
Here’s how you can take action today (and every day):
âś… Vote against laws that hold women back
âś… Mentor girls and women in your community
✅ Support victims of abuse—believe them and uplift them
âś… Stop victim shaming in any form
âś… Shop with and donate to women-owned businesses
✅ Contribute to a young woman’s education or tuition fund
✅ Learn about women’s history—not just in March, but year-round
âś… Pay women fair, competitive wages for their work
But there’s one more powerful thi...
I’m sure that you’ve heard the phrase 'snitches get stitches.' I want you to really think about what that means.
You see, I think that people don’t understand what snitching really is when someone is seeking safety.
Bystander intervention has been found to be less common than expected. Many students witness bullying incidents but do not report them or intervene. Schools and organizations are working to educate students about the importance of standing up against bullying.
Unfortunately, I believe that bystanders choose not to act because the 'snitches get stitches' culture is so prevalent, and whether you know it or not, you and I have at one point or another supported that belief.
You see, there is great fear in REPORTING something out of concern that you will be seen as 'the snitch.'
I can think of several movies where a tragedy has happened, and the members of the community are still apprehensive or completely against reporting the perpetrator. The apprehension comes from fear ...
How are you doing with the school season starting up again?Â
You know, I’ve been thinking a lot about kids’ behaviors because they’re definitely different than when you and I were growing up. I mean…they don’t do much outside!
That’s so weird to me. I actually kicked my two teens out of the house for an hour hoping they would take a walk or come up with some type of activity to spend the hour.Â
Do you know what they did?Â
THEY SAT AT THE FRONT DOOR. THE. ENTIRE. HOUR!
Can you believe that?!
And, YES! I took their devices.Â
You see, studies show that being outside for at least 15 minutes around nature helps increase high energy and reduces depression, anxiety, and many other negative mental health effects.
Kids are spending too much time indoors, particularly in their bedrooms. Without having exposure to natural vitamin D (sunlight) and mixing that with always being in front of a screen, kids are more prone to developing social anxiety, depression, and other negative mental he...
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