I recently overheard a conversation going on right next to me between two people. They were discussing the outrageous amount of money that rich people throw away every day on the non-sense type of stuff.
One of them said that if they could only have a few million dollars, all of their problems would go away.
That comment really caught my attention. It made me wonder how many kids believe that money solves all problems or that money can create complete happiness.
I thought about that because that conversation reminded me that I was a kid who believed that money solved all problems. I believed it because that's what I would hear adults say.
But when I became a teenager I learned that those beliefs were merely myths. Overhearing that conversation and thinking back to what I used to believe about people with monetary wealth made me reflect on what “rich” people’s hardships might look like.
I thought a bit about what it must feel like to wake up each day knowing that if something were to happen to a loved one’s health, the last thing a wealthy person would have to worry about would be how to pay the insurance bill.
Sure, they’d be devastated about a health challenge. But in a way, is their angst lessened due to their wealth?
I don’t know. I’ll never know because everyone is different. The point of this story is that we all have different views on wealth. I used to think that I’d want to grow up to become rich, own a big mansion, and drive a Lamborghini.
Maybe I thought I wanted this because the first home I lived in was no more than probably 500 sq. ft.
Then, one day someone asked me how satisfied I was with how my adult life turned out. I didn’t become “rich” and I didn’t buy the Lamborghini, but I did realize that I turned out to have a very happy life. I also realized that what I’d wanted as a child was to have comfort and safety. Not to be wealthy.
Looking back, my life has been rich due to the experiences I had and because of the things I’ve done for myself and for others. I've realized that most of the things I hold valuable are not the material things, but the meaningful people and memories that have made me grow into who I am.
While reflecting on the way people think of riches, I began to think about the things that parents might do that could give children a misunderstanding of what “riches” really are.
For example, when we buy our kids things that aren’t needed we enjoy seeing their excitement. They tell us they’re happy with their toys and if they’re used to constantly getting gifts they might start measuring their happiness by the number of presents they get for their birthday or for gift giving holidays.
It’s scary to think that innocent gift-giving might be the cause of the misinterpretation of happiness.
It’s a dangerously fine line, but if we have conversations about needs versus wants, and about what really makes us happy, then we’ll most likely raise kids who will not measure happiness with material things.
However, if you’ve noticed that your child starts expecting gifts for every occasion or doesn’t give family time much value, then you might want to look out for other clues that indicate you have to make some changes. Here are some of the clues to be wary of:
I can go on and on about the things that kids say when they confuse material possessions for real happiness. But this can be changed. Parenting is hard. We’re just trying to figure things out. We make mistakes, but as soon as we recognize them we try to correct them.
The most important thing is that we have a real understanding of what genuine happiness is and that we teach it to our children so we can raise kids who appreciate and value the things that really matter.
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