The practice of eliminating repetitive “sorry” statements might not seem so harmful, or important, but hear me out.
Research finds that women have a lower offense threshold, meaning that they tend to apologize significantly more than men.
This matters a lot because when women don’t say sorry at all or as much, they are perceived as too cold, not nice, b*!chy, or bossy.
Always saying sorry is also used as a way to deflect tension and awkwardness and it is also used as a way to show uncertainty or self-doubt.
Most importantly, when people overuse the word “sorry”, really apologies come off as insincere or meaningless.
Eliminating this habit will help you become more assertive, develop a strong voice and increase your confidence. On a bigger scale, you will help change society’s view of what assertive women are like, and believe it or not, this helps us get closer to being treated equally.
So, here are some examples of how...
It’s been a heavy week, hasn’t it?
There were several shootings this week, but the one that’s been highlighted the most is the one in Uvalde, Texas.
I have to be honest. I have been avoiding reading or listening to a lot of it because my emotional bandwidth just can’t take it right now. That doesn’t mean I don’t care. I certainly do. But, I have to limit my consumption of things that I am aware will be too much to handle at the time.
One thing I've had to do regardless of how I feel is to check in with my kids to find out how they're doing. I know that the answers might not be ideal. I don’t expect them to feel like the world is an amazing place and that they will feel 100 percent safe and secure.
But, I want to make sure that they know I am there for them and that they can ask me any questions.
That’s the job of a parent, right? No matter what is going on, we never stop being there for our kids.
So, I want...
I try to be as involved as possible in my children’s lives. I do not accept short answers when I ask them how their day has gone. I try to have conversations with them to know what’s really been going on in their lives, but it's not always so easy.
They are in their teens and sometimes, sharing about their lives is NOT something they're interested in doing.
Try A Different Approach
Since kids can be really stubborn about opening up, I've had to learn when to leave them alone and when to get them to engage without them realizing that they're doing it.
It has to be subtle and all about them!
For example, this morning, my younger child was very cranky and didn't want to talk. As I drove her to school, I asked her if she knew what was making her feel cranky. Of course, she gave me the usual teen answer, "I dunno".
Since I didn't want her to go off to school feeling down, I started telling her that I imagine that if her favorite stuffed animal...
I was speaking to someone who just moved to the United States about what to expect from the public school system.
It was insightful to learn that while this person had visited the United States a lot over the past 10-years and even attended university in the states, their idea of how schools are run and parents' role in the way things are done at schools was surprising to her.
Overall, she was impressed that while parents have a lot of power in telling the schools what they like or don't like, they mostly DON'T exercise that right.
This conversation made me realize that the reason so many parents don't get involved in decision-making processes at their children's schools is not that they do not care. It's because of a lack of knowledge.
So, I decided to share a few things you should know if you would like to take more control of your child's education in public or private schools.
Parents and community members can request the minutes of the Parent-Teacher Association (PTA),...
Since many schools throughout the nation are returning to online learning, more kids will be tempted to navigate to their social media sites.
And, let's be honest, they're already spending more time than any parent would want online, right?
So, let’s talk about SOCIAL MEDIA ETIQUETTE.
If you’ve been following me for a while, you’ve already read or heard me talk about delaying the use of smart devices for kids until you can no longer hold back.
You’ve also read or heard me talk about things to consider agreeing on with your kids when YOU DO give them access to devices and the internet.
Now, let’s review a few details about online etiquette:
1 Never share or repost information that you have not confirmed. You can avoid arguments with friends and family if you follow this suggestion.
2 NEVER share or post mean comments, images, or videos about someone (even if they are notorious for being a bully)
Most kids NEVER tell an adult that they're being bullied because they try to handle the situation alone or they fear that telling an adult might make matters worse.
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