Most of us were never taught the difference between surviving and living. We were just taught to get through things. Be strong. Keep going. And when we made it out the other side, we called that love for ourselves.

Janice Claire DaCosta wants us to look at that more closely.

Janice is a global logistics leader, Mind-Shift Advocate, Reiki Master, TEDx Curator of TEDxMallardCreek, one of Influential Women's Most Influential Women of 2026, and the author of Pay Yourself First: The Blueprint to Emotional Wealth, a book that spent its first three weeks at number one on the bestseller list. She joined me on the DaliTalks Podcast this week for one of the most honest conversations I have ever had on this show.

And she said something I have not been able to stop thinking about since.

Survival is not self-love.

What That Actually Means

Janice describes her own pattern with the kind of honesty that only comes from having really done the work. She was resilient. She survived through experien...