Ever watch the movie "Mean Girls?" The main bully, Regina was always referred to as the popular girl at school, right?
Do you recall who and how her friends behaved around her versus when they were alone with the people they tormented?
Well, they are a really good example of different types of bullies. You see, while you might think that it doesn't matter what type of bullying behaviors they exhibit, they actually do matter.
Because how they bully people can tell you a lot about how to approach their attacks and how to help them stop hurting you or others.
So, let's get started, shall we?
The first type of bully happens to be "the popular kid" (the popular bully).
Typically, the popular bully has created his/her image due to the aggressive, controlling, and manipulative methods to be perceived as dominant. Sometimes they justify their actions because they claim to be the no B.S. type of person.
Peers tolerate this type of behavior because they have the "if you can't beat...
Would you put your child in a bubble if you could? It’s something all parents have thought of at one point or another, right?
Honestly, I’m not one of those parents who would put their kids in a bubble. I understand the need for them to go through some life lessons, but to a certain point.
One of the things that I have focused on is showing kids empathy because as we have all witnesses, people without empathy are more likely to intentionally hurt others.
Then, there’s the importance of learning to deal with one’s own emotions. When children do not know how to release what they’re feeling, eventually those emotions come out in certain ways.
Sometimes pain and frustration come out in the form of anger. When this happens to children, even they don’t often understand why they’re feeling.
At times, their emotions are taken out in the form of anger, mischief, or bullying. No parent wants to find out that their kid is the one...
I recently overheard a conversation going on right next to me between two people. They were discussing the outrageous amount of money that rich people throw away every day on the non-sense type of stuff.
One of them said that if they could only have a few million dollars, all of their problems would go away.
That comment really caught my attention. It made me wonder how many kids believe that money solves all problems or that money can create complete happiness.
I thought about that because that conversation reminded me that I was a kid who believed that money solved all problems. I believed it because that's what I would hear adults say.
But when I became a teenager I learned that those beliefs were merely myths. Overhearing that conversation and thinking back to what I used to believe about people with monetary wealth made me reflect on what “rich” people’s hardships might look like.
I thought a bit about what it must feel like to wake up each day knowing...
I’m embarrassed to share that I didn’t really know what Dr. Martin Luther King (MLK) Jr. Day was about until I was an adult. Honestly, I’m not sure why.
Maybe it is because my head was absent from school most of the years growing up. I was more worried about the challenges going on at home and learning the English language than giving 100 percent of my attention to what teachers were saying.
I was in survival mode.
But when I did find out the true meaning of this day, I began implementing its meaning not just on MLK Day, but year-round.
What I mean by that is this day is a federal holiday to honor Dr. King for his dedication to fighting for the civil rights of minorities. Since he was a man who dedicated himself to uplifting communities, people honor him by doing good deeds and by taking action to help improve societies.
Millions of people volunteer in their communities in his honor. They also donate to charities and hold events to...
Have you ever had a huge aha moment as an adult about something that you went through as a kid? You might have thought it was nothing, but as you reflected on it, you realized it was the cause of something a lot bigger?
This happened to me a few years ago. My family has always made fun of me for having been that teen that slept ALL THE TIME!
THE BACK STORY
My father had finally left us right after I had turned 14. It was a wonderful feeling to no longer wake up to him physically abusing my mother or walking into the house from school to see she’d been beaten again.
Everyone recalls one particular summer when I was 15-years-old when we lived in government housing after my father left.
My mom had to make ends meet and she had gotten so lucky to have received a government home for us because the waiting list was very long.
Since she had six kids, they made her case a special priority. I will never forget that change in our lives. She would stay in her...
Former Foster Youth Shares Personal Journey From Pain to Power
Imagine being so scared to go to a school that you hide in the library so that you can be invisible.
Imagine being called names such as “blackie” and “ugly”, while walking to class by a group of your peers. Imagine what your life would be like if you are jumped, hit, chased and chronically teased at school, and no one comes to your rescue
Sadly, thousands of children in the Inland Empire, especially foster youth, are afraid to go to school because they are violently and verbally attacked.
I was one of those children. A quiet, shy kid who felt unloved and unworthy due to the trauma I faced, I was often the target of unwanted harassment. I wore the same clothes or hand-me-downs that were either too big or too small for me.
My hair was unkept because no one invested money to care for my hair. My clothing, dark skin, and coarse hair made me a target for daily bullying for a decade that...
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by Rosalia Rivera
Due to the #METOO movement, the word ‘CONSENT’ was brought to the forefront of cultural awareness. It’s unfortunate that it has taken a movement this big to create more awareness of what consent is and why it’s so important. Never the less, #METOO has helped to spread the concept of consent and make it mainstream.
Unfortunately, people think that it’s solely related to sexual consent. But in fact, it’s about our rights as free individuals to CHOOSE to have ANYTHING done with or to us.
Here’s the problem. We teach kids about consent only in the pre-teen or teen years, and some parents don’t teach it at all because they don’t know how to approach it.
Parents only relate consent to sexual consent and it makes them anxious to approach the topic. So their children are left unequipped to set or enforce boundaries or on the flip side, unsure how to ask for consent or read non-verbal cues.
While we complain about our first world problems, others look at us in the developed world wishing to have our problems.
I’ve been thinking a lot about a story I recently read. It was about the experience that Soad, a grandmother from Iraq and her son, Haider had when they were brought to Georgia so that her granddaughter, Noor could get medical attention. You can read more about baby Noor here.
While Soad and Haider were in the U.S. they saw many things in a very different light than most of us Americans do.
For example, Soad was astonished at how clean our produce is in American supermarkets. She was amazed that misters would spray the produce every so often to keep it fresh. And she noticed that produce was not swarmed with flies the way it was in markets in her country.
Soad and her son viewed the American medical system that we so much complain about in a whole different way:
“Their idea of medical care was limited to an Abu...
My daughter came up to me after a rough week of behavior challenges and asked, “Was I, good kid, today?”
This is to say, I was stunned by that question. I felt awful that she thought she was not a good kid at any time.
I also blamed myself for the way she was thinking of herself. Perhaps I’d been too strict. Maybe my tone was too harsh, but at the same time, I thought about the actions she had done that led to me correcting her.
Kids can go through phases of defiance. However, they don’t last long if we help kids correct those actions right away. I am not a perfect parent. Believe me. I have a lot of regrets about how I handled some situations.
Therefore, I try to consciously think things through even when I’ve very upset about something that my kids have done that I don’t agree with.
As I was having a conversation with some parents, one of them asked me about how to help a kid who has bullied others and is trying to do...
I walked into my daughter’s room and my irritability immediately shot up! After days of reminding her to clean her room, it appeared as if she hadn’t made any attempt whatsoever to improve the mess.
Can you relate?
Surely, every parent has experienced this type of frustration and anger. As I stood there looking at everything in that room, I realized that a lot of it was my fault.
It’s A Parent’s Responsibility
You see, my husband and I were the ones who allowed all the toys to come into the house. The high stack of stuffed animals didn’t just appear out of nowhere. And the overfilled hamper hadn’t been checked for two weeks.
When you make cleaning playful for kids, it doesn’t seem like a burden to do chores.
Similarly, the closet hadn’t been inspected by my husband or me either. Why? Because we were exhausted and we decided to see what would happen if we didn’t stay on top of their chores.