We’re living in a time when bullying, discrimination, and dehumanization are on full display—in schools, online, and even in positions of power. But what scares me more than the actions of bullies... is the silence of bystanders.

We are living in a time when bullying, discrimination, and dehumanization are visible everywhere. They show up in schools, online spaces, workplaces, and even in positions of authority. What is often most damaging is not the behavior itself, but the silence that surrounds it.

Silence teaches children and adults that staying quiet is safer than doing what is right. Over time, this silence becomes normalized, and harm continues unchecked.

Understanding the bystander effect is critical if we want to raise confident, compassionate, and bully-proof kids.

A Story That Reveals the Power of Silence

A woman recently shared a story from when she was sixteen years old that captures the bystander effect in a powerful way.

Her classroom desks were arranged in a circl...